Leadership

June 19, 2008

Following the Pirates "Out of Ur"

Because of the response that Christianity Today received on their blog, Out of Ur, they've asked me to do a follow-up to the pirate post. Here are their questions and my responses. Hopefully this keeps the conversation going!

CT: Some people are taking issue with the idea that a pastor’s sheep can be stolen because, they say, the sheep really belong to Christ. Where does the church member’s loyalty reside—with Christ, the church, the pastor, or all three?


I agree that the church members, attendees don’t belong to the pastor. They are God’s people, called by him to serve him above all. We are called to shepherd them, not own them.

The issue of pirating, though, isn’t about the members’ loyalty. It’s not about the attendees finding another church. It’s not about the visitors going somewhere else.

We tell people all the time that if Fellowship Church isn’t for them to leave. And we lovingly and directly point them to any one of the phenomenal churches in our area.

The issue with pirating is all about what happens in the church leadership—specifically the staff.

I’ve discovered there are several types of people around you: those who are with you, those who are for you and those who use you. Pirates are the ones you thought were with you, but end up using you for their own agenda.

It’s the people you, as a leader, pour your heart into. It’s the people you laugh with, cry with and share your life with. The ones you mold and shape.

Pirating rears its ugly head when those leaders that you cultivate  maliciously and intently work behind your back and the church’s back to gather their own “kingdom” and head out the door. The real issue is betrayal.

I have no problem with leaders being cultivated in the church and then being sent out to start new churches. But the key there is that they are sent. When someone on your staff usurps the authority of the church, starts a rogue movement and does their own thing, then you are dealing with a pirate.


CT: Employees leaving a corporation to begin their own business often sign a non-competition clause. What do you think is an appropriate geographic distance for a church planter to operate who was nurtured, given their start, at Fellowship Church?


This is an interesting question, because it brings up a core issue that many people seem to be missing in this whole thing. Ethics.

In the corporate world, if you work for someone and at the same time work to steal their clients, that’s illegal. You are getting paid by that person to work for them; yet, at the same time you are taking the rug from underneath their feet. You will go to jail for that. And that’s why there are non-competition clauses.

I’m not saying that the church should be run like a business. I’m not saying that we should model everything we do after the corporate world. I don’t think we need to sign non-competition clauses. I’m simply pointing out that the ethics of this situation are all out of whack.

In the church, our ethics should be so far above the corporate world that competition isn’t even an issue (‘above reproach’ sound familiar?).

To use the old adage, there are plenty of fish in the sea. It’s not about placing some building in a certain position on a map. It’s about ethics and how you go about fulfilling your call.


CT: Is competition always bad? Lyle Schaller has a book titled “From Cooperation from Competition” in which he calls for more churches to compete in the same area for the same people. This, he says, will cause all the churches to improve their ministries. (It’s free-market capitalism meets seeker-driven church.) Should we be upset by the presence of a competitive church down the street, or should we celebrate and welcome it?

Simply put, no, competition isn’t bad. I believe it helps us become better at what we do. It’s the thing that drives us. Everything we do at Fellowship is about competition. We’re in competition against the evil forces in the world to reach lives. That’s the same battle we all face. But pirating has nothing to do with competition.

We celebrate every church that is preaching and teaching God’s Word and going after those far from God. We’re all called to depopulate hell by making it hard for people to go there.

But so many of these comments are about sheep swapping; they are so concerned about the competition down the street that they miss the point of reaching the lost. I’m not worried about competition. Again, there are plenty of people for every church.

We are here to reach the lost. And I think every church leader would agree with that. But when someone in your staff becomes a pirate, that mission is jeopardized. The focus gets taken away from reaching out to the world for Christ. And instead, we have to deal with issues that Christ never wanted us to face when he prayed in John 17, “My prayer is not for them alone. I pray also for those who will believe in me through their message, that all of them may be one, Father, just as you are in me and I am in you.”

It ultimately comes down to one quesiton: who are you reaching? Because pirates are all about reaching into the church first for their own agenda rather than reaching out to the world to save lives and fulfill Christ's agenda.

June 13, 2008

The "Pirate" Video is Still Making Waves

Thank you to Christianity Today for picking up the conversation! Check it out here.

May 24, 2008

Church Pirates

This is something I've wanted to blog about for a while. I also wanted the staff at Fellowship to hear it. So I filmed this in front of them...I can't wait to hear your responses!

May 10, 2008

Craig Groeschel On A 'Hole 'Nutha Level

It was awesome to have Craig and Amy Groeschel at our Marriage Retreat the past few days.

And I can't wait to see all that happens as a result of this summer's One Prayer series. Check back here for more details!

May 07, 2008

The Numbers Don't Lie...Do You?

This has got to be one of the most hilarious times of the year, because it's the time of year when different magazines and websites come out with their reported "Fastest Growing" or "Top 100 Most Attended" churches in America.

When I see these lists I have to laugh, because there are only a handful of churches that count accurately. Only in the church world do we get away with this. I don't know why we lie about our numbers so much, but we do. We tend to exaggerate, elongate, double count and guesstimate. And we end up with numbers that aren't reflective of who is really there.

So I'm going to start an "Accurate Counting List." That's right...an accurate list of church attendance. The criteria are very simple. All you do is report:

          * Your annual giving (excluding building funds or other special projects)
          * Children, birth through fifth grade
          * Your attendance in worship services that present the same content

So many churches will add their midweek, Sunday night or special event services that don't share the same content as the weekend.

Just the other day we went to a well-known church (one that pretty much everyone would know) and we asked them what their attendance was in that particular service. Then our staff counted and there were 1,500 less that what they said!

From the get-go we have tried to be ruthlessly and brutally honest about our numbers at Fellowship Church. Why? Because numbers matter to God. They represent lives. They help us in planning buildings and programs. And they let us know if we are being effective in reaching people.

There is a balance, though, between OD-ing on numbers vs. not counting at all. So it's time that we all step up to the plate and be honest about our numbers, because the numbers don't lie.

Happy counting!

May 04, 2008

From Countdown to Recovery

If you want to see my message from this weekend, check it out now...

April 29, 2008

Back to the Basics

April 22, 2008

C3 On the Road - Myrtle Beach

Myrtle Beach has always held a special place in my heart. It's where Lisa and I used to go with our friends during high school. I remember the big time was "First Week at the Beach."  We always spent the first week of summer break there, and we have some special memories from those years.

Well, we're heading back to Myrtle Beach on April 28! And this time I think it's going to be even better, because we're going for C3 On the Road.

In a way, I like these On the Road deals better than our international conference because of the personal interaction and the opportunity to talk with so many people who couldn't make it to our conference in February. And this year C3 On the Road has a whole new feel with a new set up and new information.

So whatever leadership role you're in, join us this Monday at Barefoot Community Church, an awesome church pastored by Clay NeSmith that is just blowing up! You don't want to miss it.

I know I'm excited and I can't wait to see you in Myrtle Beach!

April 15, 2008

Wave After Wave

Our leadership team is still recovering from the loss of Vanessa Whitwell, who served our staff for nearly a decade. Wherever you turn at Fellowship you see her thumbprint on something.

During her funeral last week I shared a story about a time her and her husband Andy travelled with Lisa and me to Hawaii. One afternoon we were swimming on this beach. And the waves crashing in were tsunami size. Only in Hawaii can you get waves the size that we saw. Most of us were standing about waist deep in the water. But all of a sudden, I looked out to my right and I saw Vanessa swimming out toward these giant waves. And to my amazement, she began to body surf on these towering, powerful, Hawaii 5-0 type waves.

In John 10:10 Jesus said, "I have come that you might have life and have it abundantly."

The word "abundantly" in the original language is a picture of waves crashing upon the seashore. That picture of Vanessa riding those waves is a microcosm of her life.

Amazingly, Buddy Cremeans, a dear friend of mine, called a few days ago and left a message and a prayer for Vanessa's husband Andy and our staff. And during his prayer he said, "God, I pray that your waves of grace would surround all of the friends, family and staff who loved Vanessa dearly."

Just coincidence? I'm not buying that.

You know, when you ride the waves with people in ministry; when you're being tossed around on the rough seas or even when it's smooth sailing, you don't realize how close you get to someone until their snatched from you.

This tragedy has brought our team closer. It's made us realize the camaraderie and the loyalty and the love that we have for each other. I hear people talk about missing the camaraderie that they experienced with a certain battalion or in boot camp. And they talk about the closeness that they felt.

Well, as we are involved in this faith fight; as we're involved in rowing this craft, this ship, to where God wants us to go, let's take time to appreciate others, to love one another and to rise above our petty differences. Let's look at the bigger picture. Because we're a team. We're a fellowship. We're a bunch of men and women rowing a ship to take turf and to conquer new lands for the kingdom of God.

Vanessa, we'll miss you. We thank you for the legacy that you left. And for the unbridled, offensive energy that you put into riding wave and wave for the kingdom of God. 

April 14, 2008

One Prayer

Over the past several days, we’ve all been dealt a serious dose of reality. And one thing that has helped me stay tethered to hope is prayer.

But not only is prayer something that has helped us through the last week, it’s also the topic of a revolutionary movement our church and many other churches will experience this summer through One Prayer.

Everyone is talking these days about video venues. That’s the buzz around the nation and the world. In reality, though, this “new school” of thought is really old school; as old as the early church.

As you read about the emerging church in the New Testament, so often one of the speakers, for example Simon Peter or the Apostle Paul, would speak and various other people would record what they were saying; they would “download” their messages. Then, they would circulate these sermons throughout the area and the world.

This summer, we’re taking a page from the New Testament and bringing it to 2008. Our churches have an opportunity to go back several thousand years and experience the teaching of some phenomenal leaders, including Craig Groeschel, Jentzen Franklin and Perry Noble. And I’m thrilled just to be a part of this unity in diversity.

This really will be a picture of the body of Christ coming together and learning from a kaleidoscopic range of speakers. And as we download the timeless truths found in these messages, I’m confident that so many people will discover another level of living!